February is here; the month of love, right? Isn’t funny how in January we work on all the things we want to change about ourselves and our lives and in February we show others love. This month, while I want you to show love to others, I also want you to show love to yourself! Instead of focusing on all the things we need to fix and make better about ourselves, let’s focus on the things that are awesome, the things we love.
I have seen this picture going around on Facebook where you write something you love about your child and post it on their door and I love this. I love building our children up and showing them that the strengths are not just about what people see on the outside, but about the inside too. As a mom of a girl (and boys), I also think it is important to lift up their physical attributes too because we want our children to be confident in their skin. I tell C, “I love your red hair,” because yes, I truly love her red hair, and when that day comes that someone makes fun of her for her red hair she has years and years of positive comments about her red hair saved up in her tank.
I recently spoke to a group of moms and I asked them to write down all of the things that they did not like about themselves. I didn’t do that so that they could re-read it. I did it so they could rip it up and stomp the things away and never think or say them again. However, I noticed when I gave them a quick amount of time they needed more time. They could have gone on and on and on about all the negative things they did not love about themselves. When I asked them to write down things they loved about themselves they had a hard time or they were ashamed to write this down.
Why is this? Why are we so afraid to say positive things about our selves? Is it because we really don’t see that many things or we don’t want to be arrogant? What if we saw ourselves the way God sees us?
Jeremiah 1:5 says, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet of the nations.” God has created us to be wonderful, to do amazing things and to have amazing attributes. In His eyes, we are perfect, just as our children are perfect to us. What if instead of the negative, this month we focused on all the things we love about OURSELF?!?
If you are lifting your children up this month, take 1 extra minute and lift yourself up too. Write something down each day that you love about ourself. It can be anything: something as simple as you keeping your house tidy, the outfit you picked out, or the good deed you did. I will start…
I love my smile.
Many of our negative thoughts and insecurities stem from our past experiences. I have many insecurities that I deal with daily; they are my demons. I have worked hard to realize that those insecurities are not how God sees me and that those lies are a message from Satan.
“Being confident of this, that He who bag a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”
Let’s work together this month and remove all of our insecurities by focusing on the things we love about ourselves. Will you write down something every day that you love about yourself? This can be a list in your phone, you can make it pretty and put it on hearts like you do for your children or journal it.
I would also love for you to gain the courage to share the things that are oh so wonderful about you: the things you love. Join me on social media this month and use #ichallengeyoutoLOVEyou. Love God, Love Each other and LOVE YOURSELF.
“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins”
1 Peter 4:8.