How may times have you scrolled through Facebook and have read someone posting “eat this, not that” or the newest article about what you should be doing?
I do it too. I am sorry.
How often have you run into someone you know at the grocery store and feel like they are looking in your cart? Yes, this happens to me too. I look in people’s carts or stare at what the person in front of me is putting on the belt in the checkout lane.
To that person, I am sorry.
Stop the Food Shaming
It’s food shaming. I food shame. You food shame. We all have food shamed each other for the food they we put in our bodies.
I have also been on the other end of it. I often run into people I know at the grocery store and try to have small talk with, but I often find their wandering eyes drifting to my cart. I get it, people want to know what I am eating and buying for my family.
Let’s clarify something, I don’t write this blog to tell you what to eat. I write this all out of care and encouragement. I want you to find what works for you. If I give you an idea here or there, great. If I inspire you to try to make a healthy substitution, awesome. If I inspire you to to figure out how to find the balance between health, fitness and living then I have done my job.
Here is the thing with health, fitness and nutrition: everyone is different. That is the end of the story. I may have guest posters who know more about fitness or nutrition than you or I, but they don’t know your body. Most of all, they don’t know your desires.
Back in July I did a grocery store tour. As we went down the almond milk aisle, there was a side conversation happening where there was negative talk about people who drank almond milk. The woman did not agree with people drinking almond milk, it was not for her. She knows and believes in the benefits of cows milk. There was no reason for her to shame those of us who drink milk alternatives.
In the same breath, I know many who would judge her because her diet consists of cow’s milk. What if she feels great? What if she is happy in her own skin? There is no reason for others to shame her because she drinks cow’s milk.
It is not our job to job to judge people for what or how they eat. It doesn’t help to post on Facebook, “I can’t believe someone would ever want to put that kind of food in their bodies,” with a picture of a person eating a french fry. (Yes, I have read this from people- I have since hid this person.) This could have been this person’s first french fry in months. It could have been this person’s one treat of the week. Why do we think it is okay to food shame people?
Find What Works
We all have our struggles whether it is related to food, fitness, family, faith or something completely different. Life is meant to be lived and enjoyed. Your goals are different than mine. What works for you might not work for me. I encourage you to find what works for you and what makes you feel good. Find what fuels you to live your best life.
For some, a Paleo diet might be what works and makes you feel best. For others, it could be eating what makes them feel good and following zero guidelines.
I know a few bodybuilders and their diet is much more strict than mine. It doesn’t make them any more healthy or better at life than me… or than you. I have a lot of friends who eat super clean 80% of the time, and it is what makes them feel good. It doesn’t make them better than you.
And for others, eating healthy is not on their radar. This does not mean that it will never be. Does this pain me? Absolutely. I don’t like seeing unhealthy or obese people because I know the consequences. However it is not my job to judge, shame or put them down. Maybe they just need help or guidance, not someone to judge or shame their food choice. I don’t know their story and neither do you.
My Job & Yours
It is our job to love people. It is my job to simply share what I know and how I live. To some it may not be the right way. Is there a right way? I hope by sharing this somewhere along the way I will inspire someone….
Inspire someone not to eat like me..
Not to exercise like me…
Not to live live me..
But to find YOUR happy place in the world of health & fitness…
To lift YOU up to live your best life.
So next time if I see you in the grocery store, I promise not to stare at you cart and judge the Cinnamon Toast Crunch and potato chips you stuck in there. And if you see me, instead of trying to hide the fact that you are trying to look at what kind of bread I am buying or if my chicken is organic, just ask. Ask me what I am cooking for dinner this week or if I shop 100% organic- I am happy to share. I am transparent. I am doing what is best for my family- no need to judge.
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Your turn- tell me.
Have you ever been food shamed?
Do you catch yourself food shaming?How do you feel about this topic?